Genuine Connection and Artists
What is genuine and authentic connection! Being authentic and genuine is transparent. The need for genuine connectivity was born with us and started since the attachment happened with our mothers before birth. It is a human need to feel that there is someone who has a genuine intention toward us to trust, unselfishly caregiver, belong to, feels safe to be vulnerable with. This is similar to a baby’s feelings in his mother’s hand. Before even a baby can speaks yet, his mother automatically fulfils his needs and understands him. In Maslow’s Theory ‘hierarchy of needs‘ which splits between deficiency needs and growth needs and according to his theory, humans are compelled to satisfy physiological needs first to pursue higher levels of intrinsic satisfaction then, advance higher-level of needs.
Animals eat for survival, but never advance to higher level of needs to genuinely communicate or connect. Authentic connection has much more than mere physical needs. When spiritual, intellect, psychological and emotional needs are met, perfect connection happens. And as the authentic connection requires commitment, it takes two or a group to make it happen. While nothing would replace eye to eye connection, Social media have opened up endless opportunities to better understand people even if they think they can hid behind the little screen. Simply, because genuineness and authenticity are transparent whether through face to face connection, texting, writing or calling. These kind of connections do not happen between animals.
Artists are among those who appreciate intimate and genuine communications. However, because most of artists are high sensitive people, they are capable of sensing what is beyond words and instantly, sense facial expressions, body language and tone of voices. Yet, their vulnerabilities stop them from proceeding their initial understandings and try to rationalize or let go of the first impression so they do not deal with guilt feelings or misjudgment. The results, most of cases, Artists get hurt, manipulated or misled. While being genuine, spontaneous and vulnerable are beautiful qualities yet, never should one ignore first initial impression and understanding, there are always facts in them. The world out there is not the caring mother neither are we babies any longer. As we’ve reached maturity and are responsible for our actions and decisions, let us learn how to set boundaries when are needed.
